It could have been so different
You have 2 choices
I won’t pretend it was easy. Far from it. But together we moved on and built a new life in a new house. We’ve even got a cat (I hate cats and even my dog hates cats). Like many children from domestic violence situations, my children saw and heard things that no child should ever see or hear.
Everyone processes things differently but we processed it all together. We laughed about things which really weren’t funny. We cried and shouted together. And we talked it all out. Even now, 6 years later, stuff still comes up which we had forgotten about and we need to talk it out.
For some adults or children, this sort of past could mean they choose a life of violence, drink, drugs or yet another violent partner. But for us, we came out fighting stronger. It took time but we talked it out and we changed out lives. We let happiness back in. Humour is a big part of our family. And love – lots of love. And when I think of how far we have come, it makes me feel quite emotional.
We are not victims of Domestic Violence. We are survivors.
ps If you or anyone you know, is experiencing domestic violence Safe In Sussex are amazing and run a free awareness course which is open to all women. They even have a creche.