Happiness is a state of Mind
A few people recently commented to me that I’m always happy and relaxed. Which came as a surprise to me because I’ve always considered myself to be pretty grumpy and stressy.
But then I thought of quite a few times recently when people have commented that I smile a lot. And the more I thought about it, the more I realised that I am no longer that grumpy person. I am actually pretty chilled. Even the whole glass of orange juice spilled on my laptop didn’t particularly rattle my happy cage.
So when did it change? And why did I think I was grumpy and miserable?
Well, I think I probably WAS a bit grumpy for a while. When my life wasn’t a happy one and there was too much stress in it, and an abusive partner who I needed to escape from. I didn’t give out happy vibes. I didn’t relax at any time.
When I was working 3 jobs just to keep a roof over our heads, I wasn’t all that happy – strangely enough.
I decided to use my skills as a hypnotherapist to build up a business doing something I love. I took control of my life and started to use what I had learned to help other people. And as hypnotherapy is all about changing patterns of behaviour, moving forward and building self esteem, I find that it all bounces back at me.
So every time I do some hypnotherapy, the positivity I use to help other people to move forward, is also propelling me forward. Whether than person is giving up smoking, resolving a fear or phobia, losing weight or working on their anxiety issues, the basic idea is the same. Positivity, positivity, positivity.
I daily post happy thoughts, positive affirmations on my Facebook page and Twitter. And I know that some people don’t like them, find them irritating. But I love them. I need them. Positivity and happiness needs feeding daily. It’s a bit like having 2 wolves inside your head fighting for survival. Which one is going to survive? The one you feed. So feed your positivity, feed your happiness.
I use the skills I have learnt to help me whenever there might be a time when I start to feel under pressure. I recognise the warning signs and act on them. I’ve been known to be standing in a queue in the bank, using self hypnosis to get myself back to that calm happy place. And oddly enough, the more positivity you surround yourself with, the more positive you are.
So as I sit here with a cat making my arm go numb and a labrador making my feet warm and toasty, I realised that I am happy. I am chilled. And it does take a lot to shift me from that state these days.
If you mess with my kids though, and that’s another matter…